Spirituality, Travel, Writing

The Pelican

“There’s something wrong with that pelican,” I said. My husband and his brother and I had just completed half of an annual tradition: a Thanksgiving weekend beach walk on Marco Island, FL. We’d just reached the southern tip of the island and were preparing to turn around when I spotted the bird.

It had landed in a crevice between rocks on the jetty, presumably pursuing prey, but then it kept hanging out there in a most un-pelican-like fashion. Maybe it was just resting? (Porter and I did once see a hummingbird–one of those those masters of perpetual motion–sit in a tree for several minutes!) But then the pelican raised its wings as though intending to fly, yet did not achieve liftoff. It settled back down, tried again a minute later, and a minute after that. Something was definitely wrong.

I didn’t know which direction the tide was headed, but if nothing changed, eventually the water would be over the bird’s head. I kept hoping someone would notice . . . the man fishing off the end of the jetty, perhaps, or the woman collecting shells at the water’s edge. But the pelican was camouflaged, brown against brown, and each person walked away, unseeing.

Finally, another man and woman picked their way across the rocks, fishing poles in hand, and the pelican’s struggle caught the woman’s attention. She called her partner over, and together they snapped into action. He reached down and grabbed the end of the creature’s long, prehistoric beak, holding it firmly shut, while she pulled a knife from her pocket and went to work on the fishing line that had entangled the bird.

It wasn’t quick; the pelican’s thrashing had only made matters worse. But she kept at it, patiently, and the bird submitted to her care. Once they were satisfied that no strands remained, the man let go and the bird flew off, to applause from the small crowd that had gathered to watch.

The pelican landed in the water just a few yards away and remained there. Was it injured? Periodically, it gave a big flap of its wings without gaining altitude. Maybe the formerly trapped wing was damaged. Perhaps the bird was waterlogged from its captivity in the crevice, or maybe it was just stunned, trying to get its bearings. It really was time for us to turn around, but I couldn’t stop watching.

You know the story has a happy ending, right? Eventually, with a few strong flaps, the pelican lifted out of the water and flew an enormous test-circle, practically buzzing its rescuers as it passed the jetty. They noticed, and pointed, and the beachgoers cheered again.

The story didn’t stop with the rescue, though. As the pelican floated there, gathering strength, the couple was gathering all the old fishing line they could find among the rocks, eventually amassing armloads. It wasn’t their mess, but they cleaned it up anyway.

It wasn’t their mess,
but they cleaned it up anyway.

These days, when so much of the news makes us heartsick (yet unable to look away), what a relief to witness a reminder of the basic goodness of humanity.

This is the point in a blog post where I’d ordinarily launch into a little lesson. I’d unpack the pelican story, musing about our Advent call to be attentive, perhaps, or to help others with the gifts and skills God has given us, or to care for creation, or to leave a place better than we found it. But honestly, I think this story speaks for itself.

More importantly, Eric Clayton has already written that essay, in a beautiful post from Ireland called “The Man Who Untangles Seagulls.” Different coast, different bird, but a similar (amateur) rescue, which led Eric to muse about our call to show up in the moment and respond as best we’re able. Click the image below to read it!

“The Man Who Untangles Seagulls” by Eric Clayton at IgnatianSpirituality.com

May you reap the blessings of attentiveness, this Advent and always!

Uncategorized

The Littlest Angel

My reflection for the Jesuit Media Lab’s “Waiting and Wassailing” series dropped yesterday. I chose Bing Crosby’s “The Littlest Angel,” a song that never fails to bring a sappy tear to my eye. Click here to read/listen and explore the rest of the series. (You can also sign up to receive a song and reflection a day in your inbox, now through Christmas Eve.)

Wishing all the blessings of Advent, especially to those who find themselves in the darkness of grief this year . . .

Christine

Image by Inn from Pixabay
Writing

Books I Love by People I Love (2025)

‘Tis the season . . . for curated book lists! Here’s my quirky annual contribution, with just two rules: I have to 1) genuinely like the book and 2) know the author personally (enough to have had a conversation).

If you’re shopping online (I’m looking at you, Cyber Monday), I beg of you, GET NOT YOUR BOOKS FROM AMAZON. Local independent bookstores need our December dollars! If you don’t have one near you, try Bookshop.org, where you can indicate which local indie your purchase will support, or Barnes & Noble, a bona fide brick-and-mortar chain.

And if you want to gift any of my books for Christmas, just email me and I’ll move heaven and earth to get personalized, signed copies to you or your chosen recipients.

Enough said. Here’s the 2025 edition of Books I Love by People I Love:

Lilli de Jong: A Novel, by Janet Benton
Janet is a Philadelphia-based writing coach. Her debut novel, set among Quakers in Germantown in the late 1800’s, follows the travails of an unwed mother forced to make her way in the world in the face of heartbreaking poverty and prejudice. GIFT THIS TO anyone who enjoys a compelling, immersive read.

If I Loved You, I Would Tell You This,
Short Stories by Robin Black
Robin is a local author I met years ago when Lynn Rosen hosted a discussion of Robin’s novel Life Drawing (which I also recommend). Wanting to read more, I discovered her marvelous book of short stories. Fun fact: last year, I ran into Robin at an Authors Guild happy hour and fan-girled her so hard it might have freaked her out a bit. GIFT THIS TO anyone who needs their exquisite writing in small doses.

Finding Peace Here & Now: How Ignatian Spirituality Leads Us to Healing and Wholeness, by Eric A. Clayton
The fun and prolific Eric Clayton released his third book this year, and I got to review it for the National Catholic Reporter. It’s not enough to wring our hands and pray for peace, Eric insists. “If peace is what we desire, then we need to practice it.” A generous writer, Eric provides many helpful suggestions for how to practice peace within ourselves so that we can extend it to others. GIFT THIS TO anyone who doesn’t like what today’s political climate is doing to their blood pressure.

World of Wonders: A Spirituality of Reading, by Jeff Crosby
Jeff (with whom I’ve enjoyed an epistolary friendship for several years) has written an intriguing memoir chronicling the intersection of his faith and his reading, including the evolution of his relationship with Scripture, poetry, and fiction. He identifies literature that has nourished him in various seasons of life, and provides carefully curated lists of works he has found helpful and we might too. GIFT THIS TO anyone who’d like 174 MORE book recommendations (I’m not even kidding) to enrich their spiritual life.

Common Ground: How the Crisis of the Earth is Saving Us from Our Illusion of Separation, by Eileen Flanagan
Eileen is a good friend, and I’ve had the privilege of reading parts of this book in draft form ever since we went to the When Words Count retreat together in 2017. Common Ground takes readers on a journey to places where environmental disasters are being exacerbated by corporate interests and dishonesty. Yet this is not a “doom and gloom” book; Eileen interviews climate activists, spiritual leaders, and ordinary, warm-hearted citizens, all working together to banish our “illusion of separation” from one another and from the earth that gives us life. GIFT THIS TO anyone who wants to be better equipped to talk persuasively about the crisis facing our planet.

Together Through Reflection: Themes for Those Who Lead and Serve in Catholic Organizations, by Bridget Deegan-Krause
For decades, Bridget has worked to equip mission-focused leaders for service. Designed as a resource for faith-based leaders to use with their teams, this accessible guide offers practical direction for producing an effective and prayerful reflection experience. (Now, there’s a book I wish I’d had during my years in campus ministry!) GIFT THIS TO anyone who works for a Catholic institution—especially if they are in a leadership role.

The Soul Also Keeps the Score: A Trauma-Informed Companion to the Spiritual Exercises of Saint Ignatius, by Robert W. McChesney, SJ
Convinced by decades of work with traumatized individuals that a siloed approach to care undermines holistic recovery, my friend Rob brings spiritual and psychological insights to the table and insists that they have a conversation.  The Soul Also Keeps the Score is part color commentary on the life and legacy of soul-wounded swashbuckler-turned-saint Ignatius of Loyola, part deep dive into cutting-edge research in trauma studies. In it, Rob navigates the turbulent waters among disciplines in the service of that most Ignatian of goals: to help souls. GIFT THIS TO anyone frustrated by the divide between psychology and religion. Bonus: Rob and I have begun offering retreats together; we’ll be at Cranaleith (Philadelphia) in January and Bellarmine (Chicago) in March!

Living the Camino Back Home: Ignatian Tips for Keeping the Camino Spirit Alive, by Brendan McManus, SJ
I first encountered Brendan through his wonderful book about the Ignatian Camino called The Way to Manresa, later discovering that most of his books have to do with the Camino de Santiago (Way of St. James). Based in Dublin, he spends time in Spain each summer, supporting pilgrims through the Camino Companions program. This little gem of a book provides valuable insight on how to sustain the transformative effects of a pilgrimage in everyday life. GIFT THIS TO anyone who returned from a pilgrimage asking, “Now what?”

Jesus Before God: The Prayer Life of the Historical Jesus, by Hal Taussig
In the late 90’s, I had the amazing experience of taking a few of Hal’s graduate classes at Chestnut Hill College. A Methodist minister and Scripture scholar, Hal opened the Bible for me like no one before or since. This imaginative portrait of Jesus at prayer is a palate-cleanser of a book, readying us for a fresh encounter with God. (Note: it may be out of print, but gently-used copies abound!) GIFT THIS TO anyone who’s intrigued by the notion of a “historical” Jesus.

That’s it for this year, friends. For more ideas, check out 2024 and 2023.

Spirituality

The Blindfold

Last week, I was caught in afternoon traffic driving home from a retreat. When the school bus ahead of me reached a red light, two little girls flattened themselves against the back window.  How cute, I thought—followed by, Why do we let this precious cargo ride like loose eggs in a box? Both thoughts were chased from my mind, however, when that precious cargo began mugging and gesticulating at me. Whacky faces, strange hand gestures . . . what the heck?!?

Kids today, I muttered, striving to keep my eyes averted and my face impassive.

I don’t know what made me peek at the girls again. (Holy Spirit, perhaps?) When I did, I noticed that they weren’t trying to get my goat; they were trying to get me to play Rock-Paper-Scissors! I grinned, made eye contact, and gave the familiar one-two-three hand gesture. They jumped with delight, and we got three rounds in before the light turned green and I needed my hands back.  We continued to play at every light until our paths diverged and we had to wave goodbye.

Rock crushes scissors (in case you didn’t know)

This month, my IVC Virtual Community is reading a chapter of Greg Boyle’s Cherished Belonging called “The Blindfold.” That’s Boyle’s image for whatever prevents us from seeing one another as God sees us. “When this blindfold falls,” he says, “we focus on what is precious in the soul of the person in front of us” (p. 65).

When this blindfold falls, we focus on what is precious
in the soul of the person in front of us.

Playing Rock-Paper-Scissors with those precious girls was (in the words of a woman I met at my American Pilgrims on the Camino gathering last week) the kind of “joy snack” that could keep me going for the rest of the day. I had been judging the kids’ behavior so harshly, on so little information. I’m glad the blindfold dropped in time!

Wishing you at least one eye-opening experience this week.

Christine

P.S. Typing the phrase “get my goat” above made me wonder about the origin of that expression. Curious? NPR has your answer! 


School bus image by Taken from Pixabay; Rock-Paper-Scissors by HeungSoon from Pixabay

Scripture, Spirituality

Play Ball!

The Wisdom of Occasional Obliviousness

I watched a lot of baseball last month. (To be clear: I watched a lot of baseball for me.) After the Phillies were eliminated in post-season play, I embraced those scrappy Toronto Blue Jays and followed them all the way to the heartbreaking eleventh inning of game seven of the World Series.

A curious thing happens to me when I’m watching baseball.  I don’t exactly forget which team I’m rooting for, but occasionally I do cheer at the wrong time. Sometimes, when the “other” side pulls off a spectacularly good play or “my” side makes an egregious error, I respond in a way that causes my husband to shoot me a baffled look.

I could blame it on the change of uniforms from home to away, or on my divided attention. But maybe it’s something more human. The player diving into a stolen base with a quarter inch to spare deserves my admiration, just as the player running backwards to catch the ball but losing it in the lights deserves my sympathy. In that moment of relief or disappointment, the categories of “us and them” dissolve. I’m happy for the guy; I’m sorry for the other guy, even if I’m not “supposed” to be.

In Fr. Greg Boyle’s new book, Cherished Belonging, the Jesuit founder of Homeboy Industries says that God’s dream for the world would be to replace “Us VS. Them” with “Nobody VS. Anybody.” Perhaps that’s what Saint Paul was getting at when he encouraged us to “rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep” (Romans 12:15).

No Us and Them, just Us. This is, indeed, God’s dream come true.

Fr. Greg Boyle, SJ

In these polarizing times, it is so easy to demonize the “other side” (whichever side of whatever thing that happens to be for us). But can we also recognize goodness or sorrow, even in people whose views and actions we abhor? Can we acknowledge flaws and blind spots, even in people pursuing causes dear to our hearts? Can we forget—just for a moment—who we’re supposed to be rooting for, and simply be humans together?

Nobody VS. Anybody is a tall order. Most days, I’m not there; I’m too angry at politicians and corporations who put job security and profits ahead of human decency, and who gin up enemies for people to fear in order to keep us pitted against one another. That’s why I’m grateful to baseball: for providing the occasional moments of obliviousness that allow me to glimpse how God’s dream might be possible.

Grief, Liturgy, Scripture, Spirituality

It Was Well with His Soul

During Jeff Draine’s memorial service last Saturday at Wallingford Presbyterian Church, I had the privilege of speaking about his faith. I have written about Jeff here before, in the 2018 blog post “Eat the Peaches” after he was diagnosed with young-onset Alzheimer’s, and in the the long account of our friendship after he died last month. Here’s what I said at his beautiful, joyful memorial.

When Deb first asked me to speak today, the question she posed was this: how would you have known Jeff was a Christian without being told? Well, you might have spotted the Celtic cross he always wore inside his shirt. A perusal of his home bookshelves sure would have given you a clue. You might have known how important this church was to him. And if you knew him long enough, you might also know he was raised as a Methodist preacher’s kid, attended a Lutheran church in Richmond, flirted with Catholicism for a hot minute, and for many years was an active member of an American Baptist church—which he would want me make sure y’all know was not Southern Baptist.

But what if you hadn’t peeked under his shirt, or stood at his bookshelves, or stalked him on Sunday mornings, would you know Jeff was a Christian? Not necessarily. We all know that Jeff could speak at GREAT length about anything that interested him, but he wasn’t a proselytizer, and while he held forth on many topics, his inner life wasn’t one of them. He expressed his faith in deeds more than words. Too often, Christians use the word “Christian” as a sloppy synonym for “kind” or “nice” or “good.” But the truth is, the good deeds that Jeff did in this world—and they were many—could just as easily have stemmed from Jewish or Muslim or Quaker or any number of secular inspirations.

And yet, to know Jeff was to know that the things we admired about him were the putting-into-practice of his deep-seated Christian convictions. And, while every believer has a selective approach to Scripture—our personally curated go-to passages—the thing that really strikes me about Jeff is how passionately—dare I say, literally—he embraced some of the most challenging lines of the Gospels.

For example, in Matthew 25, in the parable of the last judgement, Jesus says, I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you gave me clothing, I was sick and you took care of me, I was in prison and you visited me. When I met Jeff at Freedom House thirty-eight years ago, he was already working on the first four, tending to the needs of our unhoused guests for food, drink, clothing, and above all, welcome. But for the bulk of his professional career, through his research on the intersection of mental illness and incarceration—Jeff laser focused on the final two. And I can tell you that I was sick and in prison and you visited me are the ones that most people who call themselves Christians rarely take literally. It is much easier to ladle soup in a homeless shelter or donate the clothes that don’t fit us any more than to walk into prisons over and over—to spend your life advocating for those the world considers “the least of these.” But that’s what Jeff did.

I also think of the line in the Sermon on the Mount where Jesus says: Do not judge, so that you may not be judged.  Though Jeff certainly could be professionally irritated and politically outraged, he was personally prepared to give just about anyone the benefit of the doubt. He was not given to judgmental rants, nor did he enjoy listening to them; he would rather turn the temperature down than ratchet people up. More than most people I know, Jeff had a keen sense of what was in God’s provenance alone. He was a very smart man who kept an open heart and mind in relation to all that he recognized was unknowable.

My final observation is about Jeff’s equanimity regarding his Alzheimer’s. Although the disease often made him anxious and agitated—especially in the later years—whenever he spoke of what was happening to him, there was never a trace of “poor me” or even “why me?” He recognized his suffering as part of the human condition. He was conscious of the many blessings that still surrounded him, and he wanted, above all else, to be useful. (That’s why he donated that big brain of his to the University of Pennsylvania, so he could keep teaching!) Now, again, one doesn’t have to be a Christian to hold that perspective. And yet . . .

As Pastor Taylor said, Jeff chose every word read and sung today. That includes the passage we just heard from John 21, with these powerful words, “Very truly, I tell you, when you were younger, you used to fasten your own belt and to go wherever you wished. But when you grow old, you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will fasten a belt around you and take you where you do not wish to go.” Jeff knew what was coming. He had no illusions about the hard path ahead. But he held his diminishment in a spiritual context. He understood Alzheimer’s as the particular way he was going to walk with Jesus, all the way to the end of the road. And he gave us that reading today as a gift, a reminder that—even when his mind and body were a mess—it was well with his soul.

Even when his mind and body were a mess,
it was well with his soul.

Jeff had no way of knowing that this memorial would take place on “No Kings Day,” but I think it’s appropriate. Not just because, in his better days, he totally would have been out there protesting. But because of the words he picked to begin this service: The King of Love my Shepherd is, whose goodness faileth never. I nothing lack if I am His, and He is mine forever.

Rest in peace, dear friend.

There are so many photos of Jeff and me together at family parties, you might think we were a couple, but really, we were just a couple of introverts!
Grief, Spirituality

Walking Toward Love

A Friendship in Ten Movements

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Jeffrey Noel Draine, 1962 – 2025

The world lost a good one this month, when, at the age of 62, Jeff Draine went home to the God he loved after eleven years living and dying with Alzheimer’s. (You can read his beautiful obituary here.) Jeff was the first friend I made as a full-blown adult. After college graduation, I moved into the Freedom House community in Richmond VA, where Jeff and I overlapped for just a week. He left briefly to run a local day care center but soon returned, moving into the bedroom next to mine. (Our headboards each backed up to a connecting door, upon which I frequently pounded when Jeff’s thunderous snoring awoke me. “I dreamed the house was falling down again,” he would say.)

Neither of us would have suspected, in those early days, that we would be friends forever—let alone family—and we certainly never envisioned that I’d be one of the last people to kiss that big head of his before he died. But there you have it. We wound up walking together for thirty-eight years, all the way to the end of his road. Here then, in honor of Jeff, is a “top ten” list of sorts: ten movements that capture our ever-shifting relationship. I hope this chronicle of how one friendship endured and evolved over time will speak to your own uncategorizable loves. Cherish them!

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Travel, Writing

Train Time

When Porter and I decided to take Via Rail across Canada, we had no doubt we’d enjoy ourselves. We love train travel, and the sleeper-car experience was a real “bucket list” item for each of us. I was a little worried about how I’d handle the absence of WIFI on the Canadian, but mostly I was just curious about the outer and inner journeys. Here’s what I discovered . . .

Large Vistas and Small Spaces

Canada is vast. The province of Ontario takes two days to traverse by train, with nothing but evergreens and lakes flying by the window. Manitoba and Saskatchewan come next, all prairies and farmland. Then it’s Alberta, gateway to the Rockies, which are so much bigger than my east coast existence prepared me for. Across Alberta then into British Columbia and down through Washington, we beheld forests, mountains, and even glaciers of enormous proportions. Everything was gorgeous. It was hard to peel my eyes away.

And yet, the snug scale of train life was also a pleasure. Even though we’d packed lightly for the extended trip, we could only bring into our compartment the things we absolutely needed on the train. Comfy clothes, in layers. A few books and crossword puzzles. Toiletries. Travel mugs. The compartment provided enough nooks and hooks for us to have a place for everything. It felt like a small private room in a (gently rocking) retreat house. We could venture over to the dining car, lounge car, and dome car, but that was the extent of our world for four days. I was blissfully content.

In my last blog post, I reminisced about mornings at the Jersey shore before laptops and smart phones, when “I’d rise first, slip out of our room, brew the coffee, head to the deck, pray and/or journal, then get comfortable with whatever novel I was reading. Presently, the sliding door would open and there would be Mom, coffee in one hand, novel in the other.” Mornings on the train were remarkably similar, except I’d take the thermos of coffee I’d prepped the night before to the darkened dome car and pray while watching the train’s headlights illuminate the landscape ahead. Presently, Porter would slide into the seat next to me so we could watch the sun transform the pre-dawn sky together. It was a beautiful reminder of God’s slow and steady work, even in the darkness of our lives.

Sunrise out the rear window of the Dome Car
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Spirituality, Travel, Writing

An Analog Adventure Awaits

Yesterday morning, I found myself missing the oddest thing: not having a laptop.

Let me explain. For more than thirty years, at least one morning in August has found me on the deck at my uncle’s beachfront condo in Wildwood NJ, drinking coffee and watching the sunrise. Yesterday was one of those days. I was resisting the pull of my devices, temporarily keeping at bay the emails to read, the editing to do, the blog post to write. In prayer, I let images of previous years on that deck wash over me, until I settled on a particularly fond memory: vacation mornings when my mom was still alive.

Wildwood Deck, circa ???

I’d rise first, slip out of our room, brew the coffee, head to the deck, pray and/or journal, then get comfortable with whatever novel I was reading at the time. Presently, the sliding door would open and there would be Mom, coffee in one hand, novel in the other. We’d talk a while, then sink into our books until the sun drove us back into the air conditioning.

Mom died in 2007, before everyone was schlepping their MacBooks to the shore, before anyone but the earliest adopters had a smartphone. Unless I brought some thinking to do, there was simply no such thing as working on vacation. What a luxury!  Although I appreciate the flexibility of my freelance existence, the danger—as I’m sure you well know—is that work-from-anywhere easily morphs into work-from-everywhere, devouring the very notion of down-time.

That’s why I’m very excited about the week ahead.

Tomorrow, Porter and I fly to Ottawa to begin a bucket-list adventure: traveling across Canada by train. Picture a sleeping compartment, dining car, observation lounge, the works!  There will be only one thing missing, I discovered as I read the fine print recently: there is no WIFI on the Canadian. I wasn’t going to be bringing my laptop anyway (in the interest of traveling light), and since international roaming is wicked expensive on my mobile plan, I’m just going to have to pass the time the old-fashioned way.

I’ll confess, I’m equal parts psyched and anxious. I’ve probably packed too many books; for months, I’ve been curating train-worthy paperback novels I can leave behind as I finish. (More, of course, are downloaded on my various book apps.) Should I choose to write instead of read, I have a notebook (the analog variety), plus I’ve saved the last several Sunday Times crossword puzzles. We have a deck of cards. There will be three meals a day, with people to meet across the table at each, and of course there’s the sleeping, but still . . . even if the train runs on time (which we are assured it will not), it’s a 96-hour, four-day journey without WIFI.

I can’t wait to tell you all about it . . . but I must! Stay tuned for stories from the far side.

May your own August days come bearing whatever graces you need.

Christine

Book Tour, Scripture, Spirituality, Writing

Got Peace?

I’m delighted to share that my review of Eric Clayton’s new book, Finding Peace Here and Now, has appeared in the National Catholic Reporter.

It is not enough to wring our hands and pray for peace, Clayton insists: “If peace is what we desire, then we need to practice it.” 

How, then, does one practice peace? What are the repetitive, foundational movements that precede mastery — the spiritual equivalents of piano scales or basketball set shots? (Can I get two points for using a sports metaphor here?)

Whether we aspire to be peacemakers on the national or global stage, or (more likely) prefer the intimate theater of family, parish or neighborhood, we must first discover the way to peace in our own hearts. Clayton’s subtitle reveals his roadmap: How Ignatian Spirituality Leads Us to Healing and Wholeness.

Click to read the whole review . . .

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